No tolerance for trolls

Although it’s true that we all ought to be prepared to expect some negative feedback to any post we make to an online community forum, it’s also true that we ought to be able to cry “foul” and have something done about it when we experience an internet troll.

According to wikipedia, an Internet troll, or simply troll in Internet slang, is someone who posts controversial, inflammatory, irrelevant or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum or chat room, with the intention of provoking other users into an emotional response or to generally disrupt normal on-topic discussion.

The term “troll” can mean a number of different things, but in essence, a troll is a person who aims to have ‘pleasure’ at your expense. They are people who have the psychological need to feel good by making others feel bad.
This is a sort of “psycho troll“, whose deception involves deceiving themselves as well as others. Such people may use their real names on the internet, and they may not even realize that they are “trolling” because it is all subconscious.

Blog Comment Trolls
In his post 7 Tips for Handling Flamers and Trolls, Daniel Scocco says: Whatever their motives, though, there are some important things to remember when dealing with flamers and trolls.
Take a deep breath and count to 10.
Be tolerant of criticism.
Censor with care.
Turn the conversation around.
Take the higher ground.
Trolls thrive on attention.
If all else fails, just ignore them.

Dating Forum Trolls
A fellow Blog Catalog member, modelelaine shares her experience of trollish behavior on dating forums:
What I have noticed from multiple dating forums is that people have some sort of hatred toward others who are more successful, have more money, have better things, are better looking, etc. Just go on a forum such as Plenty Of Fish dating site. If you are good-looking, have a decent job and are generally a nice person, don’t even try to post on the forums. Seriously. You will be eaten alive by haters and naysayers. There are people on those forums who have no life but to destroy you. If you are pretty, there are always women who will say you are a gold digger, or like you are not intelligent enough, or life you are making stuff up, or like you are an attention-seeking troll. Why do they say it? Even if you are not seeking attention, you are attracting attention. Source

Not all community members can be relied upon to make complaints when a pattern of  negative  behavior has been established. This is especially true when the member being targeted by a bad actor is someone else. Unless we are willing to speak up then we are, in essence, agreeing to become the next victim.

Social Network Trolls
Another Blog Catalog member, Doc Nicole wrote this in Ten Causes of Social Media Meltdown
Have you ever started what you thought might be a friendly or informative discussion to promote an article, and then returned to find people completely attacking you? Yikes!  … When a friendly debate turns ugly and immature it is best for your brand to just walk away. Decent people will see that you were needlessly attacked and the participants will be left looking like the malicious bullies they are.  If you feel you must put in your two cents do so and then inform your harassers you will not be returning for more.  Be the bigger person and just leave the thread.

Human nature that makes us want to avoid being seen as snitches and self protective behavior inclines us to back away from negative behavior when we witness it. These two phenomena, as well as, the nature of “detachment” created by online communication can lead us to become voyeurs rather than becoming active participators in creating a healthy online community environment by reporting the bad actors, whether or not their behavior is being directed towards ourselves or towards another member.

Attention seeking

Trolls are nothing without attention, just a monster under the bed. While the first post may be camouflaged, it really doesn’t take rocket science to identify an active troll. The best response from fellow members of the group is simply to ignore it. And the best response from moderators is to delete their membership; quickly and cleanly, with no negotiation or second chance. The group is more important than one idiot.

Socially Inept

Trolls have no self respect and low self esteem, and cannot cope with normal human interaction; start with a bit of flattery, and they may be stuck for a response. Even if they recover, they will not able to react appropriately, which should convince everyone of their trollism. Trolls focus on their target, not the issue; additionally, most trolls can only pick on one person at a time. This leaves them wide open to paralysis when you talk about them, but not to them. Published September 2008

Troll Tolerance
If members of any online community condone forum behavior of individual bad actors that they know isn’t proper,  it will slowly become acceptable, and will become more commonplace, simply because it’s being tolerated.  And if Moderators are not aware and willing to act, then a single negatively focused and manipulative member can create bad will that will have a lasting effect in an online community.

Reference: Communities Online trolling and Harassment

INFJ: The most rare of all the types

A fellow Blog Catalog member came up with an idea on the Discussion forum that culminated in many members taking the test and sharing their test results.

This is a list that I have compiled of various blogs that are categorized by the personality of the blogger using the Myers-Briggs typology test. Imagine, finding the blog of another person that shares a similar (or maybe even the same) personality type as you.

I started a Discussion thread on Blog Catalog because I was curious to see what the personality traits of bloggers are. I wanted to know if there is a dominant type of person who fills the pages of the blogosphere with anything from personal journals to information rich SEO blogs.

The Myers Briggs model of personality is based on four preferences (E or I, S or N, T or F and J or P). You combine the preferences to give your Myers Briggs personality type. Eg: having preferences for E and S and T and J gives a personality type of ESTJ. There are sixteen Myers Briggs personality types.

Myers Briggs Personality Type is based on 4 preferences

  1. Where, primarily, do you prefer to direct your energy?
  2. How do you prefer to process information?
  3. How do you prefer to make decisions?
  4. How do you prefer to organize your life?

The Myers-Briggs typology test link.

INFJ is my personality type. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.

Blogging: Defining Moments

I’m a member of Blog Catalog and awhile ago I came up with a notion that I shared with other members.

The day I decided to delete a successful blog was a defining moment in blogging for me. Getting my first domain was one too. I think we have all had defining moments but if not then why not make one up and blog it. We all appreciate reading entertaining stories so if you don’t have a post to link to now you could write one. Then I could mesh them together into a post and spread the link love around.

women_blogger1.jpgMain Entry: defining moment
Part of Speech: noun
Definition: very crucial moment
Synonyms: climax, critical moment, crunch, decisive moment, loaded moment, moment of truth, point of no return, turning point

Have you experienced a “defining moment” in your blogging or even more than one? If so have you blogged about it? (* Please provide a link to the post if you have blogged on this.)

Here are the results:
Sulz : “i’m not sure if i hit blogging nirvana or any real blogging achievement of sorts, but it was a pretty big deal to have gotten my free css upgrade from wp.com, since i love to dress my blog up. and i also feel very happy that i have regular readers and commenters who interact with me, because i like making friends despite my shyness. yeah, i think the little things count more to me – to have my readers like what i write and become friends in the process. (oh, the times i got links from big blogs like engtech’s internet duct tape were a nice blogging trip for me!)

Shirley: I have had more than one defining moment. When I wrote for riverstyxxx I knew there was no going back. I felt it was worth it if it would help someone else. I ran a contest for my new logo provided by bsilvia graphics-illustrations.com/ in exchange for a link to all 3 of my sites. and then, without asking, someone left a message on my blog that they would like to redo my page for free! This person isn’t a BC member I guess they just dropped into my site. I didn’t write about it but the new set up is at proofpositivity.blogspot.com and this is the site in which the designer came from roarkdesignstudio.blogspot.com/

Jenn : I think one of the more defining moments for me was realizing a platform I was using was just never going to work properly, and I had better make the serious effort and move all of my 90-some posts to a new locale.

It ended up being a wonderful decision because it’s a much better user-experience now, but it was a lot of work.

Of course, I realized that every bit of the effort I put into this is worth it. I wouldn’t trade the sense of community and the ability to communicate that blogging has allowed me to enjoy.

Kevin: Spread the love.

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Who is God to you? Who are you? Who am I?

 

Who am I?

Are you your thoughts?

Are they yours because you observe them?

Can you be without thoughts?

Without thinking?

 

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Two questions were asked on a general discussion forum that I want to share with readers and maybe even provoke a discussion about. Writing them here gives me an opportunity to introduce two new friends I have made as well.

There were other answers given to the first question below but the one that resonated for me was by Acousticguitarist

Who is God to you?

The essence that lives in all things and is beyond all things

that which has no beginning and no end

the thing that we sometimes give a name, but cannot truly be defined

can be experienced and felt but never really can put into words
nor cannot it be understood by the human mind because it is beyond the framework of thought

I can’t find a place where it isn’t but I’m sure beyond a doubt that it’s attribute is love.

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Acousticguitarist, who gave the answer above, describes himself this way. I play guitar, and have done so for almost 40 years. This has led me through numerous styles and has given me some incredible opportunities to play with world class musicians, absolute beginners and every variation in between. I have four blogs. The major one is The Acoustic Guitar Blog

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The second question was posed by Robin Easton an author, speaker, environmentalist, musician, nature photographer, adventurer and blogger. Naked in Eden Blog is a philosophical and social commentary blog with a touch of humor and a deep love of nature. Her posts are drawn from personal questions, insights and inspirations that arise in response to day-to-day life.

Who are you?

What if (for the moment) you took everything that defines who you are out of your life, out of the picture: your social standing, your work place/job, your income, your home, where you live, your age, your education, books you read, religious/spiritual training, psychological counseling, TV, internet, radio, and family and friends, etc? Now, with all that out of the picture can you tell me who you are?

Take everything that defines who you are out of your life and tell me who you are.

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