Live in Joy, Peace and Love

Compassion without attachment is possible. Therefore, we need to clarify the distinctions between compassion and attachment. True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively. Genuine compassion is based not on our own projections…

Friends come and friends go

A friend can be someone with whom you are so close with that you share a bond, a bond you may expect to last lifetime.  Friends can be trusted to speak the truth. With friends you can be your authentic, vulnerable self. But what if that if the bond of intimacy no longer exists? What…

Allow Love

I have always  loved music and have always loved the sound of wooden flutes.  Once long ago I discovered a recorder in a second hand shop and a little booklet explaining how to use it.  I tooted on that recorder whenever everyone else was out of the house and I day dreamed and  dreamed about…

Joy, Love and Peace

The days of  making homemade Christmas cards and writing Christmas letters on store bought cards to send them off to others by mail are fast disappearing. Statistics are showing that, even more so than other years, Christmas greetings 2010 are increasingly being sent via ecards due to convenience and the instantaneous communication that internet provides.…

Childlike wonder and wisdom

Some artists spend their careers trying to recapture the sense of wonder and imagination they had as children.  I was reminded of that this summer while I sketched and watched my friends kids create artwork from flotsam and jetsam on the beach.  Their sand drawings,  sand castles,  driftwood forts, glass and shell and mobiles, and…

Love is a Rose

It was an overcast, cool and breezy morning when Mr T took me out walking today. I have been trying to further the time and distance I established in my spring conditioning program but I’m not making much progress.  I haven’t been sleeping well.  I’m experiencing severe joint pain, and spasms in my legs that…

First date advice

There are many reasons why two people connect. Try to follow these tried-and-tested rules to make sure your next first date leads to a second one. As important as what to say on a first date, is what not to say.

A Week of Love

It is so easy for couples that have been in relationship for some time to get to a point where they begin to take one another for granted. It was time to recreate intimacy and we finally decided enough was enough and devised the “week of love” plan.

Love the one you're with

My husband and I were best friends for a very long time before we became intimate.  Ours was not a relationship based on being swept off our feet and becoming deeply entangled in romantic love. And, when we decided to become intimate, we lived together for a year and a half before we  committed to…

Do you love yourself?

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are … and that’s alright. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense of…

Lifelong Commitment Contracts

In the bad old days of the divine right of kings, citizens were compelled to become the willing slaves to the idiotic dogma and doctrine promulgated by religious organizations and their questionable “leaders”. Free will did not exist because they had no choice in the matter – the king made the decision for all, and…

These are the hands

These are the hands of your best friend holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other all the days of your life. These are the hands that will work along side of yours as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry and share your innermost secrets and…

Credo for relationships

by Dr. Thomas Gordon (* 1918, † 2002) You and I are in a relationship, which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with unique needs and the right to meet those needs. When you are having problems meeting your needs I will listen with genuine acceptance so…

Ingredients for Enduring Long Term Relationships

Becoming legally married is not a requirement for a happy, healthy and enduring relationship. Those who believe they are incomplete and must marry legally or have a religious service to be happy are misguided. Those couples who insist they are incomplete without children and insist that they must have them to be happy are likewise…

Simplifying Life and Love: From a man's heart

I’ve made the acquaintance of blogger whose blog I really admire. The blog is called Pentad: Simplifying Life and Love and today the blogger, Tamera introduced a guest author: “I asked a fellow writer to guest at Pentad, and I asked him to give us a glimpse inside the heart of a man. A glimpse…