A Difficult Week in Review

smallLast week was typical week for me.  I was busy and productive and though I had to deal with several difficult people I was happy.

I have resolved not to shun the so-called difficult people in my life for two self serving reasons. They teach me important lessons about myself, and learning from them provides  opportunities for my growth.

I acknowledged that every person in my life is my mirror. By remaining aware that each one was reflecting aspects of my own consciousness back to me,  I was able not to take their negativity personally. Continue reading

Quiet and society’s extroversion bias

susancainI just finished reading a powerful book, Quiet by Susan Cain.This book spoke to me because I am an introvert and I’ve always been under pressure to become someone I’m not. The book was loaned to me by an introvert and is now in the hands of yet another introvert.  The three of us have been discussing the how this insightful book has made us feel about being exactly who we are.  Continue reading

Seeking Happiness: Focus on Relationships

The Oxford Happiness Inventory and a battery of personality measures were completed by 171 subjects. The results showed predicted positive correlations for happiness with satisfaction with life, self-esteem, and sociability and negative correlations of happiness with embarrass-ability, loneliness, shyness, and social anxiety. Four predictors (satisfaction with life, shyness, loneliness, and sociability) accounted for 58% of the variance in happiness scores. Continue reading

INFJ: the most rare of all the types Part 2

The Myers-Briggs personality typology system was developed in the 1930s by Katharine Briggs and her daughter, Isabel Briggs Myers, as a way to place people in work environments naturally suited to their talents and aptitudes during World War II. It is based on the theory of temperaments by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. Jung believed differences in our personalities are due to our “preferences”. Myers-Briggs makes Jung’s theories practical and applicable in daily life.

The Myers Briggs model of personality has many applications, from team building to navigating midlife.The guidelines on personality types are best used as a means for understanding, appreciating, and interacting with various preferences, not as mere labels to place on others to justify your position or behavior.

In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not. Source

In the workplace knowledge of personality provided by the Myers Brigg Test can give you the clues you need to increase both your effectiveness, job satisfaction and explain your natural positive motivation in terms of workplace needs. You can use your knowledge of your type to better handle conflict, improve your sales force, reduce absenteeism, improve work team dynamics, build leadership ability and many other uses that positively impact your bottom line.

For those who want to understand Isabel Briggs Myers‘ model in more depth, this article from the teamtechnology.co.uk website includes a description of functions, the dynamic relationship between them, and the meaning of the four letter code in dynamic terms.

The temperament theory of David Keirsey (made popular in the book Please Understand Me) uses the same four letter code as Isabel Briggs Myers’ system. However, although they used the same letters, they meant different things, and this article explains the differences.

More Resources

Take the test here

INFJ: The most rare of all the types

A fellow Blog Catalog member came up with an idea on the Discussion forum that culminated in many members taking the test and sharing their test results.

This is a list that I have compiled of various blogs that are categorized by the personality of the blogger using the Myers-Briggs typology test. Imagine, finding the blog of another person that shares a similar (or maybe even the same) personality type as you.

I started a Discussion thread on Blog Catalog because I was curious to see what the personality traits of bloggers are. I wanted to know if there is a dominant type of person who fills the pages of the blogosphere with anything from personal journals to information rich SEO blogs.

The Myers Briggs model of personality is based on four preferences (E or I, S or N, T or F and J or P). You combine the preferences to give your Myers Briggs personality type. Eg: having preferences for E and S and T and J gives a personality type of ESTJ. There are sixteen Myers Briggs personality types.

Myers Briggs Personality Type is based on 4 preferences

  1. Where, primarily, do you prefer to direct your energy?
  2. How do you prefer to process information?
  3. How do you prefer to make decisions?
  4. How do you prefer to organize your life?

The Myers-Briggs typology test link.

INFJ is my personality type. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.

What's your email personality type?

emailme.JPG Serial Forwarder? An Ingenue? A Loud Talker?
Jenn over at Of Cabbages And Kings asks “Which E-mail Personality Type are YOU?”
She describes several of the most common personalities. Depending on the kind of day I’m having and how close I am to the recipient I may be a loud talker who uses some capitalized words from time to time but a serial forwarder – never! Click the title link above and go on over to Jenn’s to figure out which category you (or someone you know) fits into.


Claudette Rowley:

So many of us use common beliefs and actions to cover up accurate, positive views of ourselves. Consider the following behaviors. Do you:

  • Let other people assign value to you? Don’t. You’re the only person who can decide what you’re worth.
  • Try to control others’ perceptions of you, even though you know this is an impossible task? People will perceive you however they’re going to perceive you. Attempting to control their perceptions only leads to heartache and misery. Try not to worry about other people’s perceptions. Instead, act in a way that’s congruent with who you are and your sense of integrity — and that will shine through brightly.
  • Mostly notice what you do wrong? Stop! Start noticing what you do right. I challenge you to keep a running list of everything you do well for the next week. The length of this list may surprise you.

Read the full article: Accept Your Own Flawed Brilliance

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Self-acceptance, not self-improvement
Look inside and grow

Are You Prejudiced?

You Are Not Prejudiced
Not only are you color blind, but you’re also ethnicity blind, gender blind, and sexual orientation blind.
You don’t judge someone until you truly know them. And even then, you’re probably reluctant to judge.
You try to treat everyone equally. Everyone has a fair chance with you.
Good job – there’s not a prejudiced bone in your body.

Are You Prejudiced?

Hands up! it's a meme

I’ve been tagged by MusEditions to take part in a meme.
1. Pick up the nearest book (of at least 123 pages).
2. Open the book to page 123.
3. Find the fifth sentence.
4. Post the next three sentences.
5. Tag five people.

The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,
Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,
Nor all your Tears wash out a Word of it
– Omar Khayyam

This is perhaps the most famous verse of Fitzgerald’s Rubaiyat, and with good reason- it is hard to think of any way in which it could possibly be improved. That’s one of the things I most like about short poems, actually – at their best, they can attain a self-contained, gemlike perfection that longer pieces are hard-pressed to match, and the Rubaiyat definitely take their place among the best of the breed.

1fingerpointing.JPGClick the image for the YouTube – Dorothy Ashby – The Moving Finger from the album “The Rubaiyat of Dorothy Ashby”, Cadet label, 1970.

Dorothy was a pioneer in her day. She was compared to Alice Coltrane in her spiritual vibes, but in my opinion Dorothy’s song had more of a funk flavor and other artists were heavily inspired by her work. She has also been sampled by many Hip Hop artists.

I know the intent of these memes is to get to know others better and to include an every increasing number in one’s circle of friends but, I truly dislike them. Whenever I am ‘tagged’ I feel as if someone is pointing a finger at me and expecting me to respond right (write) now. I also feel that being tagged implies that I won’t be considered to be a “good” person if I do not wish to participate and tag others. This runs against my grain for three reasons. I’m not under any obligation to blog, my face-to-face friends would never make such demands of me and, those readers, who are close to me communicate with me by means other than blog posts and comment boxes. I will not point the finger at 5 more victims but, if any of you below would like to volunteer to participate then, please do go for it and enjoy. :-)

Your Life Path Number is 7

Your Life Path Number is 7

Your purpose in life is to find truth and meaning
. You are very spiritual, and you are interested in the mysteries of life.
You are quite analytical and a great thinker. You have many theories and insights.

A life of solitude is perfect for you. You need time to think and do things your way.
In love, you are quite charming. You attract many with your confidence and wit.
While you enjoy being alone, sometimes you take it to an extreme. You can become too isolated, shutting out loved ones and friends.

Express yourself a little bit more, and you’ll be surprised where it takes you!

What Is Your Life Path Number?



Who owns blog comments?

Don’t fence me in

When I was young I was a competitive, rugged individualist. I rejected the ‘parallel thinking’ and ‘lateral thinking’ approaches that I was naturally inclined towards using. My family members, school teachers and employers placed a strong reliance on competition, within a structured environment replete with rules and regulations.

I struggled to become a ‘linear’ thinker but I failed time and time again when my shadow self emerged. By the time I was thirty I recognized that I had been a square peg and that no amount of hammering will make my ‘self’ fit into a round hole. I became aware of who I really am and I set myself free.

I edit spelling errors, typos and awkward wording on posts and in forums. I frequently do so more than once because I do not always see clearly. I also edit what I have written when I think I have not expressed myself clearly. I do this because I believe that my words belong to me and, because I believe I have the right to edit or even delete them, until someone else posts into the same post or forum thread. After that occurs IMHO any changes ought to be made in follow-up comments made to the same thread so the conversation in the thread is not disjointed.

How many times have you heard this?

If you’re not prepared to let it stand, why did you post/publish/say it in the first place?

My response is that if I am to be burdened with the rule of remaining silent, until after I have internally processed information, and taken a position on any given issue then, you will never experience the best of me. This is why. Continue reading

I'm a brainiac – are you?

You Are a Total Brainiac

You’re amazingly brilliant. Some would even say genius.
You’re curious, thoughtful, analytical, and confident.You take on difficult subjects because you want to… not because you have to. No field of knowledge is too complicated or intimidating for you.You’ve got the brains to do anything you want.

It’s possible you end up doing everything you want.

Are You a Brainiac?

What colour is your aura?

Well, here we are enjoying another weekend. I find it difficult to be serious on Saturdays. How about you? Here’s an amusing little quiz.

Your Aura is Red

You have a high level of emotion. This can mean passion, but it can also mean rage.
Usually, you don’t take these emotions out on others. You just use them as motivation – and it works!
The purpose of your life: embracing all the wonders of the life, lots of travels, and tons of adventuresFamous reds include: Madonna, Marilyn Monroe, Jennifer Lopez

Careers for you to try: Dancer, Boxer, Surgeon

What Color Is Your Aura?

What kind of a first impression do you make?

You Make a Great First Impression

You can handle almost any social situation with grace, even the tricky ones.
Strangers often find you charming and interesting. You are often remembered fondly.
Even if you’re not naturally outgoing, you can make conversation with anyone if you need to.
Whether you were born this way or had to work to get here, you are definitely charismatic.
You’re popular and well liked. People definitely look forward to being around you.
Your social connections bring you a full and rich life. You understand how important it is to make a lasting impression.
What Kind of First Impression Do You Make?