A Difficult Week in Review

smallLast week was typical week for me.  I was busy and productive and though I had to deal with several difficult people I was happy.

I have resolved not to shun the so-called difficult people in my life for two self serving reasons. They teach me important lessons about myself, and learning from them provides  opportunities for my growth.

I acknowledged that every person in my life is my mirror. By remaining aware that each one was reflecting aspects of my own consciousness back to me,  I was able not to take their negativity personally. Continue reading

Quiet and society’s extroversion bias

susancainI just finished reading a powerful book, Quiet by Susan Cain.This book spoke to me because I am an introvert and I’ve always been under pressure to become someone I’m not. The book was loaned to me by an introvert and is now in the hands of yet another introvert.  The three of us have been discussing the how this insightful book has made us feel about being exactly who we are.  Continue reading

Seeking Happiness: Focus on Relationships

The Oxford Happiness Inventory and a battery of personality measures were completed by 171 subjects. The results showed predicted positive correlations for happiness with satisfaction with life, self-esteem, and sociability and negative correlations of happiness with embarrass-ability, loneliness, shyness, and social anxiety. Four predictors (satisfaction with life, shyness, loneliness, and sociability) accounted for 58% of the variance in happiness scores. Continue reading

Timethief: An Interview with Myself

Dragos Roua blogged saying:

Now, here’s the deal. If you blog, feel free to copy and paste this article on your blog (with a link back to the original, of course) and answer each question at a time. Feel free to skip the ones you don’t like or don’t want to answer. But do keep the link back so I can discover you. I told you, you’re important.

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INFJ: the most rare of all the types Part 2

The Myers-Briggs personality typology system was developed in the 1930s by Katharine Briggs and her daughter, Isabel Briggs Myers, as a way to place people in work environments naturally suited to their talents and aptitudes during World War II. It is based on the theory of temperaments by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. Jung believed differences in our personalities are due to our “preferences”. Myers-Briggs makes Jung’s theories practical and applicable in daily life.

The Myers Briggs model of personality has many applications, from team building to navigating midlife.The guidelines on personality types are best used as a means for understanding, appreciating, and interacting with various preferences, not as mere labels to place on others to justify your position or behavior.

In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not. Source

In the workplace knowledge of personality provided by the Myers Brigg Test can give you the clues you need to increase both your effectiveness, job satisfaction and explain your natural positive motivation in terms of workplace needs. You can use your knowledge of your type to better handle conflict, improve your sales force, reduce absenteeism, improve work team dynamics, build leadership ability and many other uses that positively impact your bottom line.

For those who want to understand Isabel Briggs Myers‘ model in more depth, this article from the teamtechnology.co.uk website includes a description of functions, the dynamic relationship between them, and the meaning of the four letter code in dynamic terms.

The temperament theory of David Keirsey (made popular in the book Please Understand Me) uses the same four letter code as Isabel Briggs Myers’ system. However, although they used the same letters, they meant different things, and this article explains the differences.

More Resources

Take the test here

INFJ: The most rare of all the types

A fellow Blog Catalog member came up with an idea on the Discussion forum that culminated in many members taking the test and sharing their test results.

This is a list that I have compiled of various blogs that are categorized by the personality of the blogger using the Myers-Briggs typology test. Imagine, finding the blog of another person that shares a similar (or maybe even the same) personality type as you.

I started a Discussion thread on Blog Catalog because I was curious to see what the personality traits of bloggers are. I wanted to know if there is a dominant type of person who fills the pages of the blogosphere with anything from personal journals to information rich SEO blogs.

The Myers Briggs model of personality is based on four preferences (E or I, S or N, T or F and J or P). You combine the preferences to give your Myers Briggs personality type. Eg: having preferences for E and S and T and J gives a personality type of ESTJ. There are sixteen Myers Briggs personality types.

Myers Briggs Personality Type is based on 4 preferences

  1. Where, primarily, do you prefer to direct your energy?
  2. How do you prefer to process information?
  3. How do you prefer to make decisions?
  4. How do you prefer to organize your life?

The Myers-Briggs typology test link.

INFJ is my personality type. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.

What's your email personality type?

emailme.JPG Serial Forwarder? An Ingenue? A Loud Talker?
Jenn over at Of Cabbages And Kings asks “Which E-mail Personality Type are YOU?”
She describes several of the most common personalities. Depending on the kind of day I’m having and how close I am to the recipient I may be a loud talker who uses some capitalized words from time to time but a serial forwarder – never! Click the title link above and go on over to Jenn’s to figure out which category you (or someone you know) fits into.

Self-acceptance

Claudette Rowley:

So many of us use common beliefs and actions to cover up accurate, positive views of ourselves. Consider the following behaviors. Do you:

  • Let other people assign value to you? Don’t. You’re the only person who can decide what you’re worth.
  • Try to control others’ perceptions of you, even though you know this is an impossible task? People will perceive you however they’re going to perceive you. Attempting to control their perceptions only leads to heartache and misery. Try not to worry about other people’s perceptions. Instead, act in a way that’s congruent with who you are and your sense of integrity — and that will shine through brightly.
  • Mostly notice what you do wrong? Stop! Start noticing what you do right. I challenge you to keep a running list of everything you do well for the next week. The length of this list may surprise you.

Read the full article: Accept Your Own Flawed Brilliance

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Are You Prejudiced?

You Are Not Prejudiced
Not only are you color blind, but you’re also ethnicity blind, gender blind, and sexual orientation blind.
You don’t judge someone until you truly know them. And even then, you’re probably reluctant to judge.
You try to treat everyone equally. Everyone has a fair chance with you.
Good job – there’s not a prejudiced bone in your body.

Are You Prejudiced?