Too Many Choices

Each person’s well being is a result of how they view the outcomes of the major decisions they have made in their life to date. Our happiness is affected by success or failure in goal achievement and our ability to set realistic goals and achieve them is confounded by too many choices. Continue reading “Too Many Choices”

Friends and Lovers

Ask almost anyone what the ingredients for a happy enduring relationship are and they will put romantic love at the top of the list.  Along with it will come a laundry list of cultural expectations; constraints that distract from perceiving what love is and how to be it. Continue reading “Friends and Lovers”

Applause Time After Time

The last note was a blue note and silence filled the room for 40 seconds when the sound of applause burst like a bomb. The audience rose to their feet with right arms raised and fists pumping into space. The sight amazed her. The sound was intoxicating – addictive. Continue reading “Applause Time After Time”

Practice Gratitude and Experience Joy

1candleI’ve been feeling so good about the way I’ve been taking care of my business and by that I mean my health and happiness.  That’s not to say that making a living isn’t something I’m taking care of too because I am. It is to say that I have my priorities straight so I’m experiencing gratitude and joy.  Are you? Continue reading “Practice Gratitude and Experience Joy”

Sixteen Rules to Live By Revisited

cropped-courage.pngI discovered these ’16 rules I try to live by’ in 2007 but did not know who to attribute them to. Today I discovered they can be attributed to Go Daddy Founder and Executive Chairman, Bob Parsons.

As I read these principles again I found wisdom in them and they immediately brought to mind The Eight Irresistible Principles of Having Fun. So I have included both in this article for your reading pleasure.

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Happiness is Spring

walkingApril has come and gone in a flurry of activity. The theme of the month was the title of this post. You can train your brain to become happier and that’s my intention. I do get by with help from friends, who provide excellent advice such as  15 Positive Tips to Be Happy right NOW!, and inspire me with thoughtful articles like  Drop Into Your Heart: It’s Easier Than You Think. But I’m a sun lover and spring has finally sprung! Continue reading “Happiness is Spring”

Train Your Brain to Become Happier

Protected by Copyscape Online Infringement Detector Depression has played a major role in my life since I was a child. There have been many times I had to struggle to make the happiness choice minute by minute, hour by hour, and day by day.

Granted in some cases of depression therapeutic intervention may be necessary.  But I am unable to take pharmaceutical drugs due to allergic responses so I have to rely on keeping my physical health and mental health in balance through alternative means. Continue reading “Train Your Brain to Become Happier”

Beyond Fear: Creativity

Choosing to be happy with everything just as it is, without trying to change anything, removes the desire to control and the unhappiness that results when things don’t go the way we want them to.  Making the happiness choice daily, hourly and even moment to moment is employing skillful means for conscious living. However, making the happiness choice is not always easy to do. This summer, while grieving the loss of my brother,  I became more closely acquainted with some people he admired. Among them is a designer called  Stefan Sagmeister who has also studied happiness. Continue reading “Beyond Fear: Creativity”

Lessons Learned Outside the Classroom: Letting Go, Moving On, and Growing

Lessons Learned Outside the Classroom- Letting Go, Moving On, and GrowingCollege and school teach many things. While primary schools is very much about learning facts and figures, college is more about learning who you are and what you’re passionate about. A lot of self-realization and personal growth happens in college—not the least of which being how to become a true adult. These lessons aren’t learned in hushed college lecture halls or busy college lab rooms—they’re learned through experiences and friendships that teach us who we are and who we want to be. One lesson that I learned during my college experience is how to let go and move on after a challenging time. Continue reading “Lessons Learned Outside the Classroom: Letting Go, Moving On, and Growing”

Learn to Include More Humour in your Life

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Anticipation of laughter reduces potentially detrimental stress hormones. Credit: iStockphoto/Nicole S. Young

Learning to include more humour in your life can have a significant effect on your overall health. Being able to see the funny side of things can produce general health benefits, and can also help to build and reinforce relationships. Some ways to boost your humour levels include not taking yourself as seriously, while knowing how to use humour in different situations, and without creating awkward situations or causing offense. By following some of the tips below, it is possible to understand and develop the value of humour for your wellbeing. Continue reading “Learn to Include More Humour in your Life”

The Power of the Smile

Smile, it is the key that fits the lock of everybody’s heart. — Anthony J. D’Angelo

There are hundreds of different variations of smiles expressing the full range of human emotion.  From Charles Darwin’s  facial expressions interpretations to Stanford University’s “Happiness” class — smile scholars have puzzled over the range of emotions smile depict. Experts including anthropologists, biologists and psychologists agree, the smile is recognizable worldwide and can be viewed as an international language understood by people across all cultures.

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Seeking Happiness: Focus on Relationships

The Oxford Happiness Inventory and a battery of personality measures were completed by 171 subjects. The results showed predicted positive correlations for happiness with satisfaction with life, self-esteem, and sociability and negative correlations of happiness with embarrass-ability, loneliness, shyness, and social anxiety. Four predictors (satisfaction with life, shyness, loneliness, and sociability) accounted for 58% of the variance in happiness scores. Continue reading “Seeking Happiness: Focus on Relationships”

Hope and Happiness as Skillfull Means

happy sad masks We are well aware that depressed people have a brain chemical imbalance that requires clinical treatment, yet we all have blue moods. Pacification and distraction form the foundation for making the choice to think and do what helps us lift our spirits and change our moods from negative to positive. Continue reading “Hope and Happiness as Skillfull Means”

Summer was Super

kitchenIn the summer months I have far less time to blog and social network in than I do during the other months of the year. This is reflected by the number of posts I publish and the amount to time I invest in blog promotion. Despite the fact the weather was a few degrees cooler than expected August weather did not disappoint.  We had a fabulous month with friends making sweet memories. Continue reading “Summer was Super”

Animal Companionship and Stress Reduction

tashiThe value of friendship is something that few people take time to really appreciate. When you need a friend, you realize just what kind of value friendship holds. I also value the companionship of my pets and consider them to be my friends too.  I derive so much health and wellness and fun from my relationships with my pets, who are capable of unconditional love and unerring loyalty.

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Staying Busy and Practicing Happiness

evergreen sprigs I love making evergreen wreaths. Evergreens  are a symbol of rebirth and I am anticipating the arrival of Winter Solstice the longest night of the year.  Each wreath I make is made from different combination of materials and has a different theme.   I use cedar boughs primarily but I also use Douglas and balsam fir, spruce and pine. The cones, holly, mistletoe,  and ivy as well as  ribbon and small ornaments  I add make each wreath  unique. Continue reading “Staying Busy and Practicing Happiness”

Childlike wonder and wisdom

wee 3Some artists spend their careers trying to recapture the sense of wonder and imagination they had as children.  I was reminded of that this summer while I sketched and watched my friends kids create artwork from flotsam and jetsam on the beach.  Their sand drawings,  sand castles,  driftwood forts, glass and shell and mobiles, and improvised instruments fascinated me. Their sense of awe with every new marine discovery and spontaneous exploration of  its creative possibilities was a wonder to behold. Continue reading “Childlike wonder and wisdom”

Kwanza: 5 Simple Rules for Happiness

kwanzaKwanzaa was created in 1966 by Dr. Maulana Karenga, professor of African Studies at California State University, Long Beach, author and scholar-activist, who stresses the indispensable need to preserve, continually revitalize and promote African American culture. Continue reading “Kwanza: 5 Simple Rules for Happiness”

Growing Happiness

You Can Be Happy Even When…

  • People have disappointed, betrayed or even defamed you
  • Somebody else is having a bad day and gets upset when you don’t join in their misery
  • Nobody seems genuinely supportive of your goals and dreams
  • You are falling short of your high expectations or you didn’t complete your to-do list
  • Nothing runs smoothly, on time or according to your plans

A video I found to be very empowering is a TED conference video and I’m going to share it with you.

Matthieu Ricard, French translator and right-hand man for the Dalai Lama, has been the subject of intensive clinical tests at the University of Wisconsin, as a result of which he is frequently described as the happiest man in the world. — Robert Chalmers, The Independent

After training in biochemistry at the Institute Pasteur, Matthieu Ricard left science behind to move to the Himalayas and become a Buddhist monk — and to pursue happiness, both at a basic human level and as a subject of inquiry. Achieving happiness, he has come to believe, requires the same kind of effort and mind training that any other serious pursuit involves.

His deep and scientifically tinged reflections on happiness and Buddhism have turned into several books, including The Quantum and the Lotus: A Journey to the Frontiers Where Science and Buddhism Meet. At the same time, he also makes sensitive and jaw-droppingly gorgeous photographs of his beloved Tibet and the spiritual hermitage where he lives and works on humanitarian projects.

His latest book on happiness is Happiness: A Guide to Developing Life’s Most Important Skill; his latest book of photographs is Tibet: An Inner Journey.

Matthieu Ricard on the habits of happiness

Happiness is something that everyone is searching for. When we’re happy, life just feels great. Everything feels…right. Now, as happiness is a goal for many of us, there is a lot of advice out there. I’ve even wrote a post myself about attaining instant happiness, but today I wanted to share some proven examples. –
5 Research-Proven Ways to Increase Happiness

Being happy no matter what

Christen Resmo reminds us:

You Can Be Happy Even When…

  • People have disappointed or betrayed you
  • Somebody else is having a bad day and gets upset when you don’t join in their misery
  • Nobody seems genuinely supportive of your goals and dreams
  • The day is falling short of your high hopes
  • You are falling short of your high expectations or you didn’t complete your to-do list
  • Nothing runs smoothly, on time or according to your plans

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