Constantly becoming me

purple lotusI love the summer months.  It’s been wonderful to relax on the beach and enjoy some summertime easy living with friends. All the water, warmth, wet hair, sand and the splashing and laughing has lifted my spirits.  I’m intending to extend the sunshine attitude I have now into the autumn.

Sea-change or seachange is a poetic or informal term meaning a gradual transformation in which the form is retained but the substance is replaced, as with petrification. … Source

Sea-change is also defined as acting upon a desire to pursue a lifestyle that focuses on improved quality of life.  This summer as I watch the ebb and flow of the tides, and witness the winds of change,  I’ve been noticing woman I am becoming as life lessons arise and I learn them.  Some life lessons I have been learning are:

  • I don’t have to live my life the way other people expect me to;
  • I must decide what I want from life before others decide for me;
  • I don’t have to like everyone and they don’t have to like me;
  • The one thing  I can control is my attitude;
  • There is more than one way to accomplish anything;
  • I can use skillful means to heal myself and help others at the same time.

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. — Buddha

The one fact or insight that’s influenced me more than any other is religious direction can be changed because the human brain can change. When what an individual is taught and told to believe and what they experience are not internally consistent they may become spiritual seekers. I became a spiritual seeker,  found my path and changed my mind.  In fact I’m still training my mind now and I will be as long as I’m alive. I have been living a happy, moral, fulfilling life without the fear of punishment or the promise or reward in an afterlife from a divine or spiritual source for many years.

The experience that’s done the most to shape my outlook on life and the person I am constantly becoming is meditation. Learning how to meditate and becoming conscious is the most significant event in my life. When I enter the ego-less state of harmonious balance through meditation, I do not experience the existence of a separate unchanging individual self.

In meditation and in everyday awareness I know I am not the same me I was when I was born nor the self I was in years past. I have changed as I have experienced life’s ups and downs. I am no longer the child or young woman I once was. I know I am constantly becoming me. We all are.

We are shaped by our thoughts; what we think, we become.– Buddha

We are all constantly changing perhaps imperceptibly but changing nevertheless; changing based on circumstances and our responses to them and thoughts about them. So  believing one is unchangeable and is the same self they were at birth and will always be that same self is an illogical choice to make.  We are shaped by our responses to life experiences and the experiences we have are based on our thoughts about them. Our responses shape who we are constantly becoming.

The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed.– Buddha

I’ve prepared for death twice now and both times I lived on after the fear of pain and suffering had dissipated. There are levels of consciousness beyond the physical one and death and rebirth are part of the continuous process of change. We are not only reborn at the time of death of our bodies, we are born and reborn at every moment. The majority of the cells in the human body die and are replaced many times during the course of one’s life. Even those few cells which last one’s entire life undergo constant internal changes. If we look at the mind, we find that mental/emotional states of anxiety, happiness, etc. are changing every moment. They die and are replaced by new states. So whether we look at the body or the mind, our experience is characterized by continuous birth, death and rebirth.

Learning life lessons is a lifelong experience that transcends many lives, and when we close our minds to challenging our beliefs in this life we close our minds to life itself.


Are you aware of constantly becoming you?

Are you experiencing seachange?

*This post is dedicated to Marty of Aphorism Of The Day and Mario of Photodiction.

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