You are responsible for where you are in life at this moment – what you think about yourself and others and how you feel and whom you choose to share your life with. Stress is literally a killer and if you are unsatisfied with the way things are now, you can choose to take personal responsibility to change them and set yourself free to become the best you that you can be.
Freedom is the ability to pursue living your life within the constraints of society, culture and the law, without depriving others of their opportunities to experience the same. A wise person, not driven by ego will find that he/she experiences freedom, but the person who clings to his/her ego experiences bondage everywhere and resents that his or her behavior is controlled by the constraints of society, culture and the law.
No person is free who is not the master of himself/herself. Your thoughts create your feelings – Your feelings trigger your emotions – Your emotions activate your behavior, and your behavior produces the results you have in your life. It’s your attachments and aversions to specific outcomes in circumstances and in relationships that are the root of your unhappiness.
Life without liberty is like a body without spirit. — Kahlil Gibran
On the surface, happiness, hope, and optimism appear to be three different terms for the same concept. Close examination reveals differences. Hope differs from optimism in that optimism is a broader viewpoint on the positive aspects of life, while hope tends to focus on specific goals or aspects of life. Both hope and optimism correlate closely with happiness.
Optimist: Person who travels on nothing from nowhere to happiness. — Mark Twain
While it’s true that happiness is a choice, you can only make the happiness choice if you know what prevents you from being happy in the first place. The shortest path to true happiness is found through making conscious choices to be free. To be happy you have to take responsibility for your life, plan and organize so you can affect change, and do things which lead to setting yourself free.
The following are common guidelines offered to help those who are determined to set themselves free so they can live a more authentic life.
1. Take stock of your life and decide what is most important to you.
2. List your personal wishes, goals, and desires for a changed life.
3. Isolate what is holding you back from living the life you want to live.
4. Start thinking outside the box. Chart a course for changing the life you are living now to the life you want to live and begin your journey.
5. Don’t seek other people’s approval to determine your own self-worth.
6. Don’t feel responsible for the happiness or unhappiness of others.
7. Stop thinking you can change what happened yesterday by reliving it today.
8. Stop explaining or justifying your actions to yourself or others.
9. Live consciously in the present moment – the now moment.