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By: Flowers, Impermanence and the Grief Cycle « this time – this space

Flowers, Impermanence and the Grief Cycle « this time – this space — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 04:26:07 +0000

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By: timethief

timethief — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 01:50:52 +0000

@Carol
Thanks for your feedback. I appreciate it.

By: timethief

timethief — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 01:50:26 +0000

@Lynda
I’m so glad you picked you on what I was pointing to in my post. We have become and instant gratification society and when faced with painful lengthy processes we ply each other with “get back to work” platitudes that ring hollow. Grieving isn’t a linear process we move between the stages in the cycle from day to day and even from hour to hour.
Shock stage: Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news.
Denial stage: Trying to avoid the inevitable.
Anger stage: Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion.
Bargaining stage: Seeking in vain for a way out.
Depression stage: Final realization of the inevitable.
Testing stage: Seeking realistic solutions.
Acceptance stage: Finally finding the way forward.
As individuals in this society it’s time that we recognize and provide support for those who have suffered losses throughout the entire duration of their period of mourning. There is a time to grieve and denying that process simply means we become physically, emotionally and even mentally unwell.

By: timethief

timethief — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 01:43:02 +0000

@Benjamin
My friend was very happy I called and she’s now open to discussing her husband’s death. She’s joined a grief group and her grieving process is underway so I let her know I can be a good listener and I do believe that she will share some of her process with me during her visit.

By: timethief

timethief — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:48:34 +0000

@nothingprofound
My friend is no longer silent. She is now opening up and I’m convinced that our visit will create an opening for even greater openness that I’m prepared to support her through. Thanks for your very sage advice.

By: timethief

timethief — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:46:22 +0000

@windroot
The good news is that my friend is working through her anger issues. I have talked long distance to her and discovered that she has joined a grief support group. I’m so glad that she did because the group support I received saw me through the whole grieving process.