Comments on: Healing your broken heart

By: Hicham

Hicham — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 19:31:31 +0000

Very well said, TimeThief. In the matter of fact, it’s all about how we understand ourselves and go through the healing process because time don’t heal as much as we do it ourselves.

By: Quiet Waters Rise

Quiet Waters Rise — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 15:51:43 +0000

I really enjoyed this post and believe that it can be very helpful to many people going through this situation.

Unfortunately, people dwell on the loss so much because they believe that their significant other and the relationship defines them. I think one of the most important things to realize is that we are what defines ourselves. We are a whole person, even without the relationship, even without the significant other.

That’s quite the journey that we all have to go through, and are still going through — to learn to be happy with and within ourselves; to know who we are and love the person inside. I know that this is a continual journey, but it certainly is an important one.

Your advice is wonderful and brings things back into focus. Loved this post.

By: Khery Sudeska

Khery Sudeska — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:03:49 +0000

I sincerely with you. Not easy to find people like you, who want to share with other people. I really appreciate it…

By: Thoughtful Delights

Thoughtful Delights — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 16:30:33 +0000

thanks a lot Time thief….In fact I was facing such a condition…

once again thanking you….

By: Melinda

Melinda — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 21:29:16 +0000

Timethief,

That’s some great advice you have given people. The thing I appreciated the most was your advice to spend time with yourself–getting to know yourself. This is so important. After my first husband, Michael, died–I remained single for close to 10 years, during which time I concentrated solely on my own personal growth and development in recovery. I got to know and love myself–and finally, after almost 10 years single, I was ready for love–ready for a complete, loving relationship–which I found! I am now happily married and completely in love with my husband. But that time, alone, was so crucial to getting me to this point.

Melinda

By: Nothing profound

Nothing profound — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 13:36:23 +0000

So much of the suffering we experience in life comes from dependency. The failure to take responsibility for our own happiness. What we call “love” in our culture is more often than not a fostering of this dependency, of the illusion that we are not complete unless we have bound ourselves to another person. The depth of anguish one experiences after a breakup or separation is in proportion to how deeply one is invested in this illusion. So to me the cure for a broken heart is to realize this wholeness in oneself, and bid the other, friend or lover, a fond and tender farewell.