Failures: Stumbling Blocks or Stepping Stones?

steppingstones

steppingstones

Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something. — Morihei Ueshiba

The kind of self- protective mindset that dictates that we only undertake things that we know we won’t fail at is a barrier to moving forward. Holding onto that  prevents us from taking risks and failing.  That’s unfortunate because failing is a lesson in learning how to succeed. Continue reading

Problems, problems, problems

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arggghhh!

I apologize to readers who keep experincing trying to access my site only to find that it’s offline because A Small Orange (my web host) is having server problems.

I have been unable to access my site and approve and reply to comments. I have paid for a year’s service and I have even paid for extra bandwidth for that period of time.  If the situation prevails for much longer I may have to get another web host.

Political correctness: What's your position?

Most posts on political correctness are rants. However, this post is not a rant, and it has not been published as an invitation for readers to respond with extreme examples where political correctness has gone off the rails.

Political correctness (adjectivally, politically correct; both forms commonly abbreviated to PC) is a term applied to language, ideas, policies, or behavior seen as seeking to minimize offense to gender, racial, cultural, disabled, aged or other identity groups. Conversely, the term “politically incorrect” is used to refer to language or ideas that may cause offense.

diversity

diversity

It’s my position that the underlying intent was and remains a good one. Given our Constitutions and Bills of Rights in democracies, it’s my position that it’s high time for citizens in multicultural nations to recognize the hypocrisy of using discriminatory language and behaviors and the damage done to our social fabric and to stop it. In other words, I don’t have a problem with political correctness in the non-pejorative sense and I don’t believe that most people do.

However, in the 1990s, because of the term’s association with radical politics and communist censorship, it was used by the political right in America to try to discredit the left wing. Now the term itself and its usage are controversial because the term “political correctness” is used almost exclusively in a pejorative sense.

What I have a problem with is those people who are double minded. One on hand, they say they uphold the Constitution and Bill of Rights. On the other they are determined to keep discrimination alive in both their language and their behaviors in public spaces and places, while huddling under the banner of freedom of speech, seemly unable to comprehend that the constraint is on government and only applies to public places and spaces.

“Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”

As individuals living in diverse multicultural societies we have responsibilities that come along with our rights. Those who maliciously defame others because they are determined to keep discrimination alive in both their language and their behaviors in public spaces and places, while huddling under the banner of freedom of speech, can be sued for defamation, slander, and libel, and that’s the way it ought to be.

However, whenever this topic is discussed most people do not look at the original intent, they simply point to the most outrageous example they can find and then champion tossing civility out the window. I think it’s high time for us to get back to basics, respect the original intent which was to recognize the hypocrisy of using discriminatory language and behaviors and the damage done to our social fabric and to stop it. Then we can see to it that the outrageous extremes are eliminated.

Discussion questions:

(1) What is  your position with regard to the original intent of political correctness?

(2) have you experienced those who maliciously defame others because they are determined to keep discrimination alive in both their language and their behaviors in public spaces and places, while huddling under the banner of freedom of speech?

What excess in your life will you prune in 2009?

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pruning

Everyone’s answer will be different; no one is exactly the same. Our habits generate or drain our power and energy. Removing a dead leaf from a plant or a dead branch from a tree or suckers that grow shoots from the base of a plant and rob the parent plant of strength gives it life and vitality. Likewise, pruning excesses from our lives creates space allowing us to progress and prosper. Source.

My pruning list
(1) Time spent on phone providing emotional support to customers and clients
I’m putting all of them on email contact only and I will check and answer email once daily only. I will respond only to work related stuff and no longer spend time on providing “emotional support”.

(2) Time spent of “freebie” research work for clubs organizations
I will accept contract work only this year. I will not accept any projects where my contribution is expected to last more than 4 weeks , and I will limit the number to two projects – tops.

(3) Time spent social networking
I have dumped reddit. I will rarely bother with either Digg or mixx in 2009 because they bring me no traffic. I will spend less time posting to “opinion” threads at BC and more time answering technical support questions on another forum instead.

(4) My closet
I will be doing a major pruning of my closets, cupboards, bureaus, shoes, handbags, and junk jewelry and donating all of it to charity shops.

(5) Time spent with energy suckers
There are few difficult people in my life that seem to suck the joy and energy right out of me. No matter what the subject is they whine and moan. No matter how joyful the event is they manage to toss a wet blanket over it. I’m putting them on the chopping block in 2009 – whack!

(6) The number of blogs I read.

I posted this topic to the Blog Catalog General Discussion Forum and received some very thoughtful replies.

I’ve selected some that  resonated:

Self segregation … girlzstylin

Doing everything myself and helping other people to my own detriment … Sebastyne

the inability to speak to large group of people … armywife65

WORRY … CreativeJunkie

stop being so closed to people – open up to those I’m close to  … faithsju243

anger … Sylvia
grief …  katscandles
negative thought overworking when it’s not really needed, negative people, self indulgence … acousticgutarist

watching t.v, computer time – especially social networks:
Facebook, BC, Yahoo messenger, E-mail, Blogging, micromanaging my children and home … CrystalRaven

working too many long hours at a time, looking at the past, my blogging world… well, most of the networking … arcticulates

other people’s expectations… real or imagined. …  I feel like everybody expects me to be just like them or better, when all I can be is me… whatever that is … boytrotters

it is the habit of self-abnegation and putting myself last … sweetviolet

to use less of the earth’s resources this year.  I plan to give back as much as I can–even if it is simply picking up some garbage on the street in front of my house, planting a tree somewhere, or volunteering a few hours a week at the local food bank … mtyler77

anything or one that brings negative energy into my life and of those close to me … myriadlife

time on social networking sites … chrissymarie321

I simplified in 2008 and 2009 brings the year of maintainance … lotusB

cartoon consumption … deadrooster

time spent on the internet … busylizzy

If you would like to read them all please click.

Discussion question:
What excess in your life will you be pruning in 2009?

I can leave my body, can you?

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I have found that I’m absorbing a great deal of what I read and I also frequently experience episodes of deja vu. For example, although I know I have never done any reading on a specific topic I can find a book and as I begin reading it my mind races ahead of my eyes supplying me with information and past life  “memories”.

I am filled with calmness and peaceful knowing that I have been here and have been presented with this life lesson before and will be presented with it over and over again until I learn it. The truth is that I possess knowledge of some subjects that I have not explored before in this life and I cannot explain why that is. More truth is that I can leave my body and travel back to these times.

As a young child I left my body and returned to it again after the spiritual journey during which I watched myself being born. I have retained this ability to leave my body and I have embarked on spiritual journeys throughout my life.

I’ve been tapping into my intuition since I was a very young child.
When I am at my best:
* I follow my heart
* I listen to my inner voice
* I trust my feelings
* I often experience information that just comes to mind without seeking it
* I often anticipate future events and “see” them, ahead of time
* I frequently see, feel, and hear things that prove to be accurate later on

When I am at my worst I am ignoring or forcefully rejecting intuitive abilities . And when I ignore or forcefully reject I become ill in my body and depressed.

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