In the bad old days of the divine right of kings, citizens were compelled to become the willing slaves to the idiotic dogma and doctrine promulgated by religious organizations and their questionable “leaders”. Free will did not exist because they had no choice in the matter – the king made the decision for all, and lopped off heads, and even created new religions manned with sycophantic parasites to suit his own sexual appetites and convenience.
Gone are the days when women were chattels to be handed over to the spouse selected by their fathers who paid dowries. Marriage is a contract between two consenting adults, who may or who may not have been married before, and who may or who may not have assets. I strongly believe the terms of a prenuptial agreement ought to be carefully considered and agreed to prior to tying the knot, and that the time to consider the terms are during a period of cohabitation, prior to marriage.
We wouldn’t engage a partner in a business without taking the time to develop a contractual agreement that spelled out the purpose and extent of our relationship, why on earth do we feel we should not treat the most important relationship we will ever enter into with any less respect and planning? — Dane Morgan
To be clear I do NOT believe that becoming legally married is a requirement for a happy, healthy and enduring relationship. Many unmarried couples I know have demonstrated this truth. However, I do believe that it takes time to form and assess whether or not the basic ingredients for a long term or lifetime commitment exist within in a relationship, and that’s what co-habitation is for. If it does exist then I believe it’s advisable to attend premarital counseling, and to formalize that relationship by creating a prenuptial contract before marrying.
Accept me as I am.
Love me without fear.
Want me without demand.
Trust me without wondering.
Love me without restrictions.
A love like that, will be eternal.
Good Ingredients for lasting Relationships
(1) Awareness that happiness comes from within. You do have to be able to love yourself before you are capable of giving anything at all to another in a relationship.
(2) Trust is fundamental to commitment to the relationship whether or not a legal formality has taken place. For without our inherent trust of each other, we will be unable to grant freedom, to treat each other with respect and equality, and to be supportive.
(3) Granting another person the freedom to be themselves, to stretch and grow or to wither and stagnate, is the ultimate result of love–unconditional love.
(4) It may be more romantic to talk about love, but it’s important to remember that love is an emotion that waxes and wanes. Healthy relationships happen between two people who really like each other ie. mutual affection. When affection is mutual, it endures.
(5) Agreement to a healthy conflict resolution process is required from the outset of any relationship because arguments are a normal part of a relationship.
(6) Change can provide opportunities for growth and intimacy, but it can also be painful. In successful relationships, resilient couples learn to adapt and change together. They accept that change is an inevitable part of human life and support each other.