http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-relationships/ skillful means for conscious living Mon, 28 May 2012 02:48:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-relationships/#comment-1223 Mon, 26 May 2008 14:44:10 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-realtionships/#comment-1223 @Muse
Thanks for coming by and for sharing that observation. I acknowledge the point you make. However, there are behaviors that may occur within a relationship such as drinking, gambling and cheating that may indeed have to change if the relationship is to survive. These are the ones I considered when looking at this credo.

]]> http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-relationships/#comment-1222 Mon, 26 May 2008 04:32:37 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-realtionships/#comment-1222 Very thought provoking, bf. I take in and breathe in harmony with about 90% of the credo, especially: “Your needs will be met, and so will mine – neither will lose, both will win.”
I’m having a bit of a struggle with “I will tell you openly and honestly how your behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to try to change the behavior that is unacceptable to me.”
I tend to think that if someone’s behaviour is upsetting me that it’s a sign to look at my own expectations. I don’t expect someone to change—for me; or I for them, but change they may when we both are able to look at the needs behind our motivations.
I shall ponder this. A new perspective can bring much insight. Thank you.

]]> http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-relationships/#comment-1221 Sat, 24 May 2008 22:18:28 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-realtionships/#comment-1221 Wonderful. Sounds like the way adults should behave. Some day I hope to be one of those ;)

]]> http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-relationships/#comment-1220 Sat, 24 May 2008 20:02:17 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-realtionships/#comment-1220 I so relate to this article. I think every couple should have a copy of this that they go back to if needed. It is a wonderful experience to be in a relationship where both people can grow and even help each other grow. Where they can be close (one) and yet also be individual. Be comfortable really sharing time together as well as sharing time apart. The most amazing things can happen in a relationship like that. Thanks TT. And thank you for your kind words. I was very touched. R

]]> http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-relationships/#comment-1219 Sat, 24 May 2008 18:49:54 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-realtionships/#comment-1219 Outstanding post… that’s the best thing I’ve read on relationships in a long time.

]]> http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-relationships/#comment-1218 Sat, 24 May 2008 17:38:10 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/22/credo-for-realtionships/#comment-1218 @theresa
Thanks for sharing the titles. I have not read the first one. The second one I have in my collection. It’s a fine book as is Sand and Foam by the same author. :)

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