Comments on: Ingredients for Enduring Long Term Relationships http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/ skillful means for conscious living Wed, 15 Feb 2012 06:15:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: timethief http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/#comment-1097 Tue, 22 Jul 2008 04:22:12 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/#comment-1097 Please accept my apology for the delayed response. I had unexpected company and computer problems and was unable to get back here to respond to your comment until now.

There’s no doubt about it. Having the freedom to be oneself and to grow within a relationship is crucial to the relationship’s longevity.

I love the description you provide above. I’m a very independent INFJ and my partner recognizes that I need more time and space alone than he does and he gives me what I need.

Thanks for the visit and best wishes. :)

]]> By: John Rocheleau - Zen-Moments http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/#comment-1096 Sat, 19 Jul 2008 23:45:29 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/#comment-1096 These are good and experienced thoughts. I enjoyed reading this.

#3, giving people freedom to be themselves resonates especially with me. I think that is so important.

And space is also important. I always remember the Kahlil Gibran essay on love (I think it was love), that there should be space between couples, so that the winds of heaven can dance between them. Isn’t that a beautiful way of relating to that?

Best,
John

]]> By: brightfeather http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/#comment-1095 Fri, 25 Apr 2008 19:27:41 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/#comment-1095 Thanks for commenting. I also have had The Prophet and Sand and Foam on my reading shelf for a very long time. Once in a while I pull them out and savor the wisdom again.

It seems whenever the subject of long term relationships comes up the focus is on things the two have in common, whether they are of the same religion and, it is assumed that they will produce children if they are of opposite sexes. What’s being ignored is same sex relationships both with and without children in the home.

I take it for granted that by the time you are considering entering a long term relationship those (common interests, religion, reproduction) are no longer at issue. And as I stated above I do not believe that a religious or civil service or the desire to reproduce is a requirement for an enduring long term relationship. Moreover, I do not believe that the only long term enduring relationships are those of couples who are always of the opposite sexes.

]]> By: ian in hamburg http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/#comment-1094 Thu, 24 Apr 2008 06:14:11 +0000 http://thistimethisspace.com/2008/04/23/ingredients-for-enduring-long-term-relationships/#comment-1094 So true. About number one: that’s what I remember most among the few snippets of advice on life my father gave me: you don’t go looking for the right person to marry until you yourself are the right person to marry.

The Prophet, by Khalil Gibran, has all this and more in the chapter on love.

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