Self-acceptance
Claudette Rowley:
So many of us use common beliefs and actions to cover up accurate, positive views of ourselves. Consider the following behaviors. Do you:
- Let other people assign value to you? Don’t. You’re the only person who can decide what you’re worth.
- Try to control others’ perceptions of you, even though you know this is an impossible task? People will perceive you however they’re going to perceive you. Attempting to control their perceptions only leads to heartache and misery. Try not to worry about other people’s perceptions. Instead, act in a way that’s congruent with who you are and your sense of integrity — and that will shine through brightly.
- Mostly notice what you do wrong? Stop! Start noticing what you do right. I challenge you to keep a running list of everything you do well for the next week. The length of this list may surprise you.
Read the full article: Accept Your Own Flawed Brilliance
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Mar 3rd, 2008 at 10:25 pm
Well I agree with everything you’ve quoted here. A balanced view of our strengths and characteristics which may need attention allows us to live a more fulfilled life. That’s a very interesting website you’ve pointed us to, with a huge amount of resources. I appreciate the link, thank you!
Mar 4th, 2008 at 9:37 am
For many years I recognized only my weaknesses without ever taking the time to examine my strengths. But over the course of the last 5 years I have become increasingly aware of the desire within me to recognize and celebrate my strengths and to achieve a loving balanced view of my “self”. This quote is something I remind myself of every day:
“Try not to worry about other people’s perceptions. Instead, act in a way that’s congruent with who you are and your sense of integrity — and that will shine through brightly.”
Thanks for being such a good friend to me during this winter of grief and pain. Your integrity shone through brightly. :-)
Mar 5th, 2008 at 10:11 am
Your blog is great with all kinds of inspirational stuff to read.
How come we all have so much work to do on self-acceptance. I have been a therapist for 30 years and everyone I work with has issues about who they are.
These so called issues are just faulty thoughts and beliefs. Here are 3 ways to healing our sense of self.
1. Start shrinking the inner critic which is just a collection of other people’s criticism that we have recorded to play over and over again and beat ourselves up about.
2. Breathe and be present to the moment and allow yourself a glimpse of the possibilities that are waiting to be expressed in you.
3. Look in the mirror and into your own eyes and see all the life that wants to bubble forth. Give yourself a hug and look directly into your own eyes and open your heart.
I am working on this too and I hope we all find the love we deserve because then our life will reflect the light of love.
Joseph
http://www.explorelifeblog.com
http://www.peace-together.com
Mar 5th, 2008 at 10:38 am
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, Joseph. They are appreciated. :-)