Jan 31 2008
Personality and romantic preferences
Your personality plays a big part in shaping your romantic preferences and psychologists have come up with a “syntax of love” to classify people on the basis of their romantic relationship style.
Dr Raj Persaud is emeritus Gresham professor for public understanding of psychiatry, consultant psychiatrist at the Bethlem Royal and Maudsley NHS Hospitals, and author of ‘Simply Irresistible: The Psychology of Seduction - How to Catch and Keep Your Perfect Partner‘ (Bantam Press, £6.99)
Raj Persaud invites readers to take part in a unique online experiment designed by Dr. Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic (Goldsmiths) and Prof. Adrian Furnham (UCL).
I took part and would like to share some feedback I received with you.
AND YOUR BIG 5 PERSONALITY TRAITS ARE
Neuroticism
- You are balanced, somewhat emotional, and adjusted. When you are worried or irritated it tends to be for a good reason. You can be anxious about things that matter and your worries usually have a purpose (e.g., they help you prevent problems). At times, however, you find it hard to suppress your negative feelings.
Extraversion
- You are ambiverted, which means neither introverted nor extraverted. You are variable and adaptable like most people. Sometimes you are happier on your own than with others, whereas on other occasions you really enjoy being with friends and meeting new people. You are comfortable in social situations and are confident interacting with others but prefer to avoid being the centre of attention.
Openness
- You are relatively open to new experiences but not that desperate for novelty. You are interested in finding out about the world and other people but there are things you would never do because they defy your values and principles. You enjoy some forms of art and like some unconventional things but are generally represented by the mainstream. You are not too conservative but not too liberal either.
Agreeableness
- You are warm, altruistic and friendly. You tend to be modest about your abilities and achievements. You follow rules and conventions and don’t like upsetting people. You care about others, even if you don’t know them, and can easily sympathise with people. You are also politically correct and prefer to avoid conflict. Confrontation is not your thing. You are modest and unselfish and try to be on friendly terms with everyone.
Conscientiousness
- You are proactive, responsible, and self-motivated. People know you are reliable and dependable. You strive for excellence and are driven by status, goals and target. You are generally focused on your goals and willing to work hard to attain them. You are well-organized and work efficiently. You are methodical and prefer to always plan ahead. You don’t like leaving things till the last minute and are self-critical if you do not achieve your goals. You prefer to avoid risks. You have a reputation both for your work ethic and for being conscientious.
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