The idea of being in a group also applies to only children. Only children are often derided because they “lack” siblings. They are viewed to be outcasts in a society that values people having more than two children. Only children are a unique birth order. Only children are alone, not lonely. Their ability to be alone translates into a fierce self-reliance, independence, and creativity. They can play alone for hours at a time and entertain themselves without much difficulty. They are also not as needy for people as children from multichild families are.

The emphasis to belong and to be part of a group extend to the tween and teen years. Adolescents are particularly vulnerable to the group culture. The most important thing to the average tween and teenagers is to belong to a group while the worst thing is to be alone. Solitary tweens and teens are often viewed as losers in the teen group culture.

In adulthood, people are pressurized to be part of a couple. People who are single are often ostracized and pitied. Yes, people are inundated constantly to be part of a group. Being alone sadly is not cherished; however, there are benefits from being alone as creativity and independence.

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It’s hard to say though maybe these individuals just learn their lessons at a much later time in life. Everything does in fact happen for a reason but reflection is so vital to one’s health. You always do reap what you sew.

However, the one thing I have noticed about caring about others so much is that you can be a great inspiration to help others with their own struggles, which encourages them to change their ways. It’s such a rewarding feeling and how beautiful it must be for those people to know someone truly cares about them, you know! I find that is the bliss of love. Love is capable of moving mountains.

Back on topic though…I think being alone is great and it allows you to process your thoughts and be at one with yourself. It’s bliss when you can give your whole world to someone else and not be in “need” of them like they are a drug. It becomes a relationship built on love because you are sharing who you are, instead of giving your headaches or for that matter just never changing or evolving for the greater good. I think as humans we are always suppose to evolve and change but most fear that change…life is like a blossoming flower.

:) Thanks for sharing this xo